We pull out our cheat card instead – it lists things that may inspire hatred. Some of these are still too controversial, so we opt for the most agreeable one. We manage to agree that we both dislike it when people talk in the cinema. Although hate is too strong a word, and we can only bring ourselves to dislike the activity and not the people themselves. By Ruth’s definition this would probably make Clive and I compatible. Compatibly passive, argument averse, and showing a preference for resolving conflict through discussion.