My point is that we expect judgment from each other but when it comes to critique, we take offence.
And this just seems insane as what is more generous than critique? It demands time and energy, a lending of oneself to the performance of another. Judgment leans back in its chair and, exerting the bare minimum of energy, points a thumb up or down. But critique leans forward in its chair, poised and attentive, heeding and contemplating, digesting and imagining.
Critique is good., judgement is bad.
If you like something, say so — but explain why, otherwise you might as well say it’s crap for the same net effect.